I’ll leave it there for the time being, as I am becoming more and more convinced that in terms of the development of the self (as opposed to its total disappearance) we are actually in agreement.

I think you're too hung up on the concept that Nibbana means the destruction of the self. Nibbana's best description is of an egoless person. The "self" is a concept. An idea. We invent it with our minds.

This article was just published--I haven't read it yet, but after glancing over the subheadings, it explains correlations between western psychology and eastern psychology as it pertains to how we construct our 'self.'

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41599-024-02746-7

DAVID: I must not be as critical. I feel at peace as is.

MATT: You must be dead! ;-)

dhw: Yep, that’s what I said about your Nibbana!:-)

Matt: Some jokes are better not reborn! =-D